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When is a setback not a setback?

We’re making progress . . . your caseworker comes for her first home visit in the morning.

But, when I talked with her earlier this week, she said your home state could drag things out for months. So, while we had reason to feel good that progress is being made with her visit this week, we’ve felt pretty bad knowing that even after the paperwork is done here in our state, that the process could take months more.

You won’t be with us on Father’s Day.

You won’t be with us on Independence Day.

You probably won’t be with us on Labor Day.

I have to remind myself that it’s not really a setback when we’re making progress, only the progress isn’t as fast or as smooth as we want.

I’ve thought a lot this week about these words by Robert Hunter:

“The wheel is turning
and you can’t slow down
You can’t let go
and you can’t hold on
You can’t go back
and you can’t stand still
If the thunder don’t get you
then the lightning will.”

Sometimes, I feel like we’re the horses on a carousel. There’s sometimes the feeling or sense of motion and progress, but we remain static, and frozen, and we’re not really making much progress, at all.